Mar 19 2009
BROKEN FAMILY AS AN EXCUSE?
Growing up in a broken family with no father to look up to was not that bad. My parents divorce when I was 5 and my sister 6. Of course I did miss my dad and kept hoping, wishing and praying that one day my dad will come back and we would be together again. Every birthday was spent waiting and looking around for my dad hoping he would show up to surprise me, he never did. I grew up without a dad but I had uncles, aunts and most specially my maternal grandparents. One day I just woke up and said to God in my prayers :
Dear Lord,
Thank you for my mom. Don’t bother bringing my dad back to us coz we are already fine, I’m going to be fine. Its better off this way, he is a stranger to me and I would not want him back in our life again. But if you want to bring him back that’s fine with me but if you ask me I’d rather you wouldn’t.Thank you for everything. You are the most high,the king of all kings and I praise you.
Even though we were from a broken family were didn’t do drugs, alcohol, partying and sex. In my opinion I didn’t make my parents divorce into an excuse for me to screw around and ruin my life. I always thought about the consequence of my actions and how it would affect my mom. My mom is everything to me, people can be cruel to her at times. They assume that just because we didn’t have a father figure we would grow up undisciplined, drug addicts, rude and promiscuous. On the other hand we turned out pretty well. I didn’t screw around when I was in my teenage years and even when I was mature enough. Drugs, sex, alcohol and smoking scared me, I didn’t want to try it for fear that I might ruin my mom, I might not be able to stop myself.
Some people use the divorce of there parents as an excuse for there stupid behaviour. True, some do get very disturbed and turn to drugs but still that is not the answer. Until now I still don’t understand what broken family has something to do with your drug use, alcohol, gambling,smoking and promiscuity. Its all up to you. Yes, we are different but if we let it run our lives we will never be able to move forward.
Don’t make your parents divorce an excuse for your stupidity. Stop, think, look and listen before you make a move. We are the masters of our own destiny.
