parentinglife

It’s been more than a year of trying to conceive another baby. Its not as hard now for me now than it was a couple of months ago. We have tried using the ovulation kit. I did not like the way that we had to have sex on a days im ovulating even if we don’t feel up to it. I didn’t like it that way, it was fun and relaxing conceiving Kaitlyn how come its so hard to conceive the second time around.

I had a check up with my OBGYN today and I told my doctor about my concern about something. I told him that we have been trying to have a baby for over a year now and nothing has happened. I then proceeded to tell him about the spotting I have been having in the middle of my cycle. That was one major thing that was concerning to me since I have never experience that before.  This has been going on for a 3-4 months now and It was just dis-concerning to me. Much to my relief my ob immediately jumped in and asked if  my spotting was only for a day and of course he was right. He smiled and said ” that is your body’s way of saying your ovulating”. That got me into thinking maybe that’s why I never got pregnant since Ralph and I never had intercourse during the times I was spotting. We may have used the ovulation kit the wrong way but now we know, lol.

Finally after days of worrying, cajoling, bribing Kaitlyn is back to her old lovable, mischievous self. A couple of days ago she would not eat anything at all and if she did it would just be a bit here and there. She had no problem drinking juice or water but would not drink all of her formula which got me so worried. She also had diarrhea and pooped 5 times in one day. Seeing that her poopy was green Ralph told me that she probably has a virus in her system and she is pooping it out which is good. Just yesterday after dropping of her big sister we got home very late. I gave her a quick bath and it was then i noticed rashes all over her back, arms, chest, neck and face. I got so worried and consulted my MIL about it. We decided that if it gets worse the next day we would take her to the emergency room at AI DuPont to have her checked out. This morning the rashes are still there but they didn’t get worse but it looked like they were going down to her legs. She is however back to her old self and has been eating a lot. All of us are glad that she is finally eating and just back to her old happy self. Hopefully tomorrow her rashes would finally go away.

On the other hand it was very nice out today but both Kaitlyn and I really didn’t get to enjoy it that much as we spent most of the afternoon napping. She feel asleep at 1 p.m. and we both woke up at 4:21 p.m. It was a long nap for her and i guess her body was healing while she was sleeping. After our nap we took her out, she played int he sand box while  picked up dog poop in the backyard. After we went up front to clean the van. It was filthy with food everywhere. At least that’s done, now i need to clean my house and organize. I envy those mom out there who have such a clean, well decorated and organized house.

It snowed and it snowed some more. We finally got a good enough accumulation to take both kids sledding. However going to the big park didn’t turn out as well as we planned. It was way to cold for the baby and it was pure torture going up the hill with snow. Kaitlyn only went down the hill once with Ralph and after that off we went searching for our truck to get warm. Kayla still had fun at the big park but it was too much effort going up the hill and we decided to check out the smaller hill by our house. Kayla had more fun there and so did Kaitlyn. Kayla had no school for 2 days and we just had fun at the house playing the Wii game or out in the snow. Kaitlyn however was not so lucky, she started getting a fever the other day. Fearful that she may have another ear infection we took her to the doctors the following day. She has no ear infection. It could be her teeth coming in again, could still be an ear infection or UTI. I just hope she gets better right away.

Snoring is one  thing that i don’t miss about my sister. She snores way to much more than any other man, a deep sleeper as well. Sharing a room with her was nice since we got to talk, laugh and share many things. The only drawback was at night when we are sleeping. Her snoring would wake me up or keep me awake and i would beg her at times to let me sleep first. There was a time that her snoring was to much for me and it infuriated me that i threw something at her face, lol. Its a good thing it was just a sock or she would have a big bump on the forehead. Now with Kaitlyn its like I’m back to sleeping with my sister. You would not believe how a child her age could snore so much. When we had a sleep over Ralph suddenly asked who was snoring and i told him it was Kaitlyn. Seeing the look on his face was priceless and i wish  had taken a picture to capture the moment. He was amazed and shook his head with a big smile on his face, he was also worried about Kaitlyn and that she might develop sleep apnea. When Kaitlyn was taken to the Emergency room last New Year’s Day the doctor who saw her said that she has huger tonsils and that we should think about having them taken out. In two more months she is going to be 18 months and again i will talk to her pediatrician about her tonsils and what her recommendation is. I just hope that if her tonsils are to come out her snoring would be cured.

A few days before Kayla came down with a cold, probably caught at school from one of her classmates or it could just be the weather or it could have been Ralph. At first she had the sniffles then it escalated to runny nose and hard cough. Thankfully she didn’t have a fever and that she only got a mild case of flu. A day before our Anniversary Ralph was stating to feel lousy and achy and was nursing a headache. At least he didn’t get the flu this time just the simple cold. I thought that Kaitlyn was in the clear since she has not shown any signs of getting the cold from either her dad or big sister, until tonight. I noticed she had the sniffles by early afternoon by evening i could see that she has the cold now. I just came down from putting her back to sleep, her throat is probably hurting, she sounded so awful while crying. I have her sippy cup handy when she wakes up again, give her a little sip so as to dampen her throat and have liquid in her. I just hope that she will get better right away, taking care of a sick toddler is not fun, they are cranky, whinny and very very demanding.

W e got  the Nintendo Wii game and let me just say that its a fun game for the entire family. Its also a killer if your out of shape,lol. The very first night we got the Wii we played bowling. Its realistic and you really move and use your muscles, the very next day we were all very very sore. It was like the slip n slide all over again, i could hardly go down the steps and i walk with a limp. It just wasn’t my leg it was also my arms and my back. That just told me how out of shape i was and that i really need to do something about it. Even my MIL was so sore that she could not lift her bowling arm to touch the tip of her nose. I love the Wii game since it allows us to play together as a family and we get some exercise out of it as well. We also got the Wii fit and I’m looking at loosing 6 pounds in the next week and a half. The yoga is tough since you have to be aware of your center of balance and its hard doing those pose that you know your muscles are not use to. You grunt and groan doing the simplest of pose and give out a big sigh of relief when your done.

I never thought we were going to get a Wii game since its expensive. In the long run we thought about the exercise we could get out of it plus we get to play with the whole family. Kayla loves it and keeps on playing with her Diego game, MIL loves playing bowling and shuffle board while Ralph loves to play bowling, tennis and baseball. As for me i love playing boxing, it really pumps me up and i just feel like i burn more when I’m doing boxing. I also love doing the hula hoop and tonight we just tried out the strength and endurance game in the Wii Fit game. Its tough and it feels like we really doing the work. We will see in  a couple of weeks if i will loose weight, hopefully i will.

I have always considered myself healthy but not as fit as i would want to. I’m not overweight and I’m not underweight, i guess I’m just in between. Lately, i have been getting this constant headache that would usually start in the afternoon and last until i go to sleep at night. I have not really been paying to much attention about it a few weeks before but its been happening often and the pain is intensifying. One time i really thought that my eyes were going to pop out of my head due to the intense pain. My head felt like it was literally going to break open. If this keeps happening I’m going to consult our family doctor and ask what this could be, i hope its not anything major. I was going to write something interesting instead of my empty ramblings but my brain hurts to much if i think,lol. I just got done dropping ec on all my blogs and i just want to lay down and go to sleep. I already took Tylenol and I’m hoping this will help. To my readers I’m sorry your just reading this empty mumbling from a pain induced writing.

Its been an ongoing post here on my blog about us having another baby and the difficulty conceiving. I’m not pregnant again and it sucks every month i find out. So i took it upon myself to do some research on how to increase my chances of conceiving and here are some of the tips :

MEN :

• Stop smoking
• Regular exercise but don’t overdue it.
• Maintain a regular healthy weight
• Eating healthy foods rich in Vitamin C, Folate, Vitamin E, Zinc and Selenium
• Living an Emotionally balanced life
• Avoid wearing tight underwear.
• Avoid drinking large amounts of coffee

WOMEN :

•  Stop smoking
• Regular exercise
• Cut down on alcohol
• Avoid getting stressed
• Maintain a regular diet, folic acid or supplemental form

And of course having sex frequently at the right time. Try to get an ovulation kit to better increase your chances of having sex at the right time. Timing is the key and i guess we just haven’t been hitting it right on the mark or it could be that my body is not ready. There is a lot of maybe’s in my mind right now but i’ll try these maybe it will work. If not there is always ways  but still i would like to  the natural way without the aide of drugs.

January 20th was   not only Kaitlyn’s 15 month check up but it was also a historical day. It was the Inauguration of the 44th President of the United States of America. Kaitlyn’s appointment was set for 9:20 am so we really didn’t get to see the beginning of the coverage of the Inauguration. Kaitlyn was pronounced healthy by her pediatrician and her ear infection is already cleared up. She gained a little bit of weight, which I’m happy since she didn’t eat much when she was sick. The doctor was impressed how responsive she was to everything she would ask her to do. She also got her shot and i was surprised when she didn’t cry at all when they gave her the shots. After the doctors we had to stop at Walmart to get some stuff and hurried back home to be in time for the Inauguration. As soon as we got inside the house MIL immediately turned on the television and only stood up to get something to eat or use the bathroom. It was a moving experience watching all those people who came to bear witness, gave me goosebumps. Now, its time for America to start moving and get our butts out of this mess that we are in. As President Obama would say, TOGETHER WE SHALL PREVAIL…..

This was the day Kaitlyn got so sick, the day i thought i almost lost her. That was the start of my nightmare. That morning Kaitlyn was feeling fine and didn’t have a fever at all so we decided to go with Grandma to the store to buy stuff for snacks while we wait for the New Year and of course for New Years dinner.  Little did we know that on our way home she was already running a very high fever. I should have noticed right then and there when i put her down on the floor  and she couldn’t stand up but kept swaying and falling. At first we just thought it was just a mild fever from her teething and so i gave her some Tylenol and put her down for a nap. After 30 min she was still hot so i kept on checking her temp and i was so scared when it read over a 104. I called my sister in law and she told me to do the rectal just to be sure and indeed it was 104.5. After the worst of her fever had passed her i have been her constant companion even while she is sleeping. I got afraid of living her on her own while sleeping thinking that she might have a seizure or something. This picture while remind me that life is precious and that not to take anything for granted. My brave little girl has fought through it and came out the victor.Praise God!